Why do i always get depressed in relationships?

Kate, it sounds to me like you're afraid of being abandoned so you leave these men before they can leave you & hurt you. It's a defensive mechanism that you sub consciously use as a way to protect yourself from being hurt. Also, you've stated that you've left 8 relationships in 10 years. This tells me that you don't stay in the relationship long enough to even see if it could go somewhere & be very meaningful. I'm glad to hear that you're in therapy & that your therapist is trying to help you with this. You've been through traumatic experiences in some of your relationships, so sub-consciously you feel like all men will hurt you in the end. If you have a really nice boyfriend now & he's very supportive of you then i would share your feelings with him. If he has a better understanding of what you're going through then he'll be able to help you through this. Maybe you could have your boyfriend sit in on one or more of your therapy sessions so you can both get through this together. When you start feeling these bad feelings & try to leave your current boyfriend he'll know why you're doing it & will know how to comfort you & to trust him. I'd hate to see you lose this really nice guy. Does this make sense to you? I don't think you mean to hurt anybody...you just don't want to be hurt yourself. Having these abusive relationships in the past probably doesn't give you much hope for any relationship. You've got to heal from past abuse & not abandon everyone who will love you. It seems like you could have something really special with this guy. Don't lose that!! I hope everything works out for the two of you. Open your heart & allow yourself to be loved. :)